Working from home with a toddler

It’s never easy to live your life with a toddler. Not only it’s a full time job, but you don’t get paid a penny. Working full time at home and having your toddler as your co worker is double the blast! Luckily, I have my other co worker, my husband, taking my shift so I don’t have a little monkey crawling on my head while I’m trying to focus. Sounds like a perfect plan right? Well, not so much for me. At least not during a pandemic.

Work life boundary

There is no such thing anymore. I even have a play area set up in my home office when my coworker is doing his thing. If I’m lucky, I could get at most 10 mins of quiet time. After 10 mins? Either I’ll be out of office or I’ll start to yell at my coworker for not doing his job. No not the ones on the other side of the laptop. They are all associated with my paycheck. I can’t really yell at my husband because then he would tell me how cold I am not to allow my own baby to play besides me. Oh speaking the pressure of working moms…

Unlimited working hours

It’s not 9-5 anymore. Not even 8-4 if working from home means flexibility. At the beginning, I told myself that I will log in my computer at 8 am and logoff at 4 pm not matter what. I even laughed at my co worker who had too much work and couldn’t finish by 6 pm. A week later, I realized I am the clown of them all. I do log off at 4 pm – because that’s my daughter’s daily bath time. But I have to log in again after she goes to bed to make up the hours because I could barely get anything done during the day. Not that I feel guilty, but I know if I wait it over the same drama will happen again the next day.

Trying to write homework inside the Disney World

Am I comparing the outside world of a pandemic to the Disney world. YES. If you live in the north where you still see snowflakes in the middle of May, and you have been watching the forecast every 10 mins to find the big sun ball, you will understand. Because right now, the only place you can go is outside – your backyard, your driveway and your side walk. And when that sunny day you have waited a week for is finally here, you have to be tied to your desk because it’s still in the office hour and someone is waiting for a stupid spreadsheet… That feeling really sucks!

What’s for lunch? What’s for dinner?

Those are the 2 questions I get to asked the most everyday, TWICE. Because my daughter is too young to eat anything hardcore like we do (we LOVE spicy food), I have to cook her meal separately. Then I feed her and cook again for us. Now because I’m pregnant, I can’t eat anything that only requires 5 mins of cooking time. That means 2 hours of lunch time. Not to mention how tired I feel after all these and just want a nap.

Vacation days

WHERE ARE YOU GOING? That’s the question that came to my head when my coworker asked about it during a team meeting. Having worked from home for 4 weeks, I desperately sent off the notice to my manager. I need a break! Even if that means having to get my old job back, which is watching my 1 year old daughter and racing with her when she is trying to get the leaf off my plants. I’d rather be with my toddler, even if she has poor communication skills. I really want to go outside, even that’s just the side walks…

Working from home isn’t as slacking as it sounds, nor is it efficient as you would think if you are a parent. But I’d rather stay with my baby during this catastrophic event and tell her what we have been through many years later.

How about you? If it’s under the safety protocol, would you prefer to go to the office or work from home if you are a parent?

What my life is like during a Global Pandemic?

During such a global traumatic event, nothing is impossible, like becoming a full time working and staying home mom who is baking baby #2 at the same time.

Work Overload

I find myself barely have time to do my daily 30 mins exercise after a day of 1.5 full time jobs. Thankfully I got my dear hubby’s help to watch the little monster who is always over dramatic about her feelings. Yet I decided to start a blog which takes my only spare quiet peaceful time after my LO went to bed. At this point, you probably think that I’m regretting my decision. But you know what? Something is changing my life, slowly.

Distance Creates Beauty

When I had the only job as a stay home mom with my mom here helping me, my life was boring and hopeless. How could I feel this way with the 2 most important women living with me everyday? Well, distance creates attractions. Luckily, this brutal virus gave my mom a perfect excuse to leave this place. WE BOTH NEED A BREAK.

New Coworkers

Because I was pregnant with little Dolphin, I made the decision to go back to work temporarily as my husband now stays home. I was very much worried that he would not be able to cope with the stress (boringness) to live along with a 1 year old who is just learning to walk. Again, thankfully to the sudden appearance of this virus, I had the chance to work from home.

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Perhaps I’m the only one who is loving WFH with a toddler as one of my co workers. I really enjoy playing with her when it’s usually my coffee break. Yes it created distances between me and my real coworkers. I can’t have a clear work and life boundaries. I can’t really take a break AT ALL. But hey, I really enjoy seeing her genuine smiles when I’m tired. I love having a little adventurous walk with her even when it’s raining outside. I will also miss having home made BBQ burgers as a work lunch at a sunny patio with my lifetime lover.

Finding a Passion

I really hated the feeling of not being able to find anytime for myself. Or it’s the fact that I’m just letting myself lead by wherever Google takes me to when I just jump into the sofa and pull out my phone for the entire night. It’s like you didn’t prepare for dinner and you only have the choice of either instant noodle or a bag of chips at the last minute. Both will make you very satisfying at the moment, but you will very likely feel guilty about it afterward. It’s after many nights like that I’ve decided to find myself something to do.

You probably want to go to my other post, Why do I start blogging , to find out what has been processed through my mind to make such a choice. Because I already forgot… Thankfully I stroke the iron when it’s hot. I knew I had to plan for my night, the only time I could find peacefulness. This is when I started to realize the little change in my head. I really anticipate each night to come. Not only that I can start on my ‘new job’, but it makes me feel pumped to do everything else. I don’t wait to prepare dinner anymore. I don’t leave the dishes until my husband complains and cleans them. I even rush to get them done so I can leave sometime for Yoga after blogging.

I feel truly blessed at where life has taken me to so far. I enjoy every moment I get to share with my family. Oh the virus, you make people die, you make people live.